15 December 2011, 2:13 pm
I'm 31, been told I look a little like Charlize Theron/Lauren Conrad, apparently have a good hour glass figure, am a laid back person, likes a laugh and my friends say I am kind and considerate. I do lack confidence and although I feel I have done well after fighting dxyslexia for years by achieving a degree, travelled, moved to a new area of the country by myself to start afresh and am now working in a good job. I'm kinda stuck with why I keep falling for idiots and allowing them to make me feel like a wally!! I was married for 2 years, was with the guy since I was 21 and divorced by 28 - he went off with someone else. Although I feel much better about things now, it was in the middle of my degree when he left so financially vulnerable and completely lost with what to do. In my 3rd year of the degree he unfortunately made the divorce very hard and was particularly nasty which I found very upsetting and hurtful. While this was happening and I was trying to get used to be single again and Im not very good at expressing my emotions openly. I dated guys who either dropped me after a few dates or just lost interest full stop which I found hard to grasp and felt rejected. I have a great set of mates who build my confidence and I feel really healthy about myself now and have a good outlook on life in general. I recently meet a guy who I really feel for and he played alsorts of games which was a shame. I have been strong enough to walk away from it however my friends say I shouldnt be so easily convinced by guys and when im dating a guy its kinda like I fall over myself to try and please them, giving them the higher status which if they want to abuse they can - unfortunately a couple of them have used this to their advantage and I've been left hanging and upset. How do I go about feeling good about myself without coming across as arrogant and not just falling for the first guy who chats me up....my friends state I need to be more picky and sit back a bit....however I can't help but feel I could be left on the shelf if I become too picky and dismiss every opportunity?? Im interested to know how others keep confident and how to act when you approached by guys....... Read More »
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